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Can the landscape change my personality?

2/11/2021

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When visiting a place do you take a moment to reflect on its personality or do you focus on the experience the place will give you - pleasing/comforting /exciting?

It was only after moving away from my motherland that I realised that the natural environment, not just the social one, has its own personality, traits and characteristics AND that these influence and shape me to the point that they modify my personality.
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In the same way that living, dreaming and working in another language shapes the way we form my thoughts, communicate and interact with others; so does the landscape.

The climate of the UK has changed my inner qualities as well as my body much more profoundly than I would have ever imagined.
 
Am I surprised? No, not really.
 
In Awe? Yes.
 
The book: “My body, My Home”  has a couple of pages on the similarities we have with Earth.
 
It is with nature that we have the most symbiotic relationship: our bodies mirror nature in such a precise  way. Everything we feel and create, the Earth reflects.
 
Picture in your mind: a raindrop on the window, it’s just the same as a tear down your cheek. Take your fingerprint, it looks like a galaxy or a tree ring. And the list of mirroring images is infinite.

We are one with nature and with our environment and so it is no surprise that our bodies might change depending on where we live.

Since I moved to this island, my body has changed to better adapt to its climate. My hair has turned wavy and curly – due to the humidity in the air; my cheeks have widened – the battering winds of the North, as well as motherhood admittedly; my olive skin has faded – doesn’t need to produce as much melatonin anymore.
 
My body has changed in response to the new climate I live in – these changes are somehow visible and therefore easier to recognise.
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What about my inner qualities, my personality?

I believe that these too have been affected by the landscape I now spend my life in. Simply we have not been taught to recognise such changes.

I have embraced new ways of being because I spend so much time walking, camping and getting lost in the Dales, Scotland and Wales rather than because I have become a British Citizen.

Of course, the socio-political environment has a profound and clear impact on us. The cultural adaption we all negotiate with the host country can also have a significant impact on us.

For instance, the language we use shapes the way we communicate with others around us.
I organise my thoughts differently in Italian or in English for instance. In Italian I am not required the same level of repetitive structure: consistently spelling out the subject, verb and object. (These might be included in in the verb or articles or are simply not required), leading to a more poetic, fluid and open to interpretation language.
 
The language you speak modifies first the way you organise your thoughts, then the way you communicate and subsequently the way you behave..
 
Similarly, culture has a very strong impact on us. And what is considered to be acceptable in one country might not be in another country. To give one simple and yet fundamental example, I had to learn to recognise the invisible queues forming everywhere in the UK. Similarly I I had to learn to apologise for inadvertently 'invading' someone’s personal space when picking up a can of tomatoes from a shelf at a supermarket. At first I crossed personal space and jumped queues all the time, not because I was disrespectful I was simply used to physical proximity and disorganised queues.

We have been trained and educated in recognising the difference that a language and a culture have on us personality: being more structured in the way you speak or more respectful of invisible personal space are just two easy example.    
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While we have been trained in recognising that the social environment can impact us, we have not been shown how the natural environment may shape or alter our bodies as well as our personalities.

Each place has its own traits and characteristics.

Some hills can give you a sense of peace and calm while others are so barren and wild that they evoke a sense of desolation and bleakness. If you walk on moors or through woods at the end of the day different feelings will have been teased out of you.
 
In the same way that a river can erode a rock so the landscape can modify your personality. Think about the potency of a river that month after month, and year after year slowly and consistently  mould and reshape a rock. Similarly the natural environments imprint their own traits onto your personality – which is much softer and receptive than a rock.

What does the park near you looks like?

Are there any dense woods where to shelter if it rains? Or do you have a steep hill near you home where you can climb up and scan the surrounding area? Depending on what the natural enviroment near you looks like you’ll have the opportunity to develop new skills and new personality traits. If you have woods you might go mushroom foraging in Autumn andor if you have a steep hill you  might learn to recognise how fast a storm takes to reach you as well as you’ll be used to be visible, and exposed. 

​The landscape near you will encourage you to bring out some traits of your personality more than others and by doing this will mould you in the same way a river erodes a rock.

Places sometimes carry underlying emotions and feelings– that are very palpable for some and are completely obscure to others.

The landscapes of the North of England affect me as I am in them or on them, and as they offer me the primary sensations of touch and sight. But, what about the landscapes of my motherland? Those are landscapes I bear in myself in absentia, those are places that live on in my memory, long after my last visit.
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Do you feel alienated or distant from the natural environment that you live in?

Know that this is something that can happen often when relocating and that you are not alone in this! When relocating to another country, it can be challenging to enter an intimate and satisfying relationship with the new territory and the longing for the motherland can persist for far longer than any other aspect.
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Yet if you invest a little time and energy in getting to know your surroundings you will meet not only the innate human desire of being in nature but you will also be rewarded with an infinite expansion of your sensory vocabulary.

Practical ideas to become an apprentice of your landscape 

BE LIKE A CAT
The first suggestion I give to clients who have recently moved to a new country is to adopt the exploring style of cats who have just been relocated to a new home. Give yourself the time to properly land and just enjoy being indoors or in the built up areas as much as you need to,, consolidating your roots. Then explore your natural surrounding in concentric circles. Get familiar with circle number one then come back home. Then explore circle number two then come back home. Slowly and gradually explore the hills, the rivers and the woods. Identify new natural landmarks and trace the paths in your memory until you have memorised them in your bones.
 
MAPS MAPS MAP
Having an OS map or one of those fancy 3D maps on the wall can also help with remembering where things are

To discover other ways to become an an apprentice of your landscape download my guide: How to Fell at Home Anywhere in the World

HOW TO FEEL AT HOME ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD

Thank you to Laurie  Ray for these beautiful photos from our walks.

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Elisa Di Napoli link
16/11/2021 02:16:53 am

the link in this page does not work

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Fra Panella
16/11/2021 12:14:30 pm

Thank you for letting me know - it is now fixed

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